Book Suggestions
Many of our clients find it helpful to read books on topics that are relevant to their concerns. Below are suggested books we have found to be useful for our clients. If you have suggestions for books to read, please let us know the title and author – you can email them to me at javi@turningpointai.com
Abuse - My Own Abuse
- Bass, Ellen, & Davis., Laura. (1992). Bass, Ellen, & Davis., Laura. (1992). The Courage to Heal. Harper Perennial Publishers. (Has an appendix/chapter for partners of survivors.)
- Bass, Ellen, & Davis, Laura. (1993). Beginning to Heal: A first book for survivors of child sexual abuse. Harper Perennial Publishers
- Bear, Euan, & Dimock, Peter T. (1988). Adults Molested As Children: A Survivor’s Manual For Women And Men. Safer Society Series Number Four. Safer Society Press. (Chapter Five: “For Lovers and Others.” Excellent chapter as an introduction for partners who have just discovered their partner is a survivor.)
- Blume, E. Sue. (1990). Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest & Its Aftereffects in Women. Ballantine Books, Inc.
- Cheston, Sharon E. (1994). As You and the Abused Person Journey Together. Paulist Press. ISBN: 0809135132
- Haines, Staci. (1999). The Survivor’s Guide to Great Sex : How to Have a Great Sex Life – Even if You’ve Been Sexually Abused. Cleis Press. Paperback, 1st ed. ISBN: 1573440795
- Hunter, Mic. Thomas, Jane R., ed. (1992). Joyous Sexuality: Healing from the Effects of Family Sexual Dysfunction. Hazelden Foundation. Paperback. ISBN: 0896382710
- Kirschner, Sam, Ph.D. et al. (1993). Working With Adult Incest Survivors/the Healing Journey (Frontiers in Couples and Family Therapy, No 6). Brunner/Mazel; ISBN: 0876306911
- Lew, Mike. Victims No Longer: the Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse.
Abuse - My Partner's/family member's abuse
- Barshinger, Clarke E. & Larowe, Lojan E. (1995). Haunted Marriage; Overcoming the Ghosts of Your Spouse’s Childhood Abuse. Intervarsity Press, USA.
- Brewster, Susan. (1997) To Be an Anchor in the Storm : A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women. Ballantine Books, Inc.
- Browne, Marie, with Browne, Marlene (2007). If the Man You Love Was Abused. Adams Media.
- Cameron, Grant. (1995). What about me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse. Creative Bound Publishers, Inc.
- Courtright, John, & Rogers, Sid (1994). What to Do When You Find Out…Your Wife Was Sexually Abused. (With discussion guide.). Zondervan Publishing House. (Christian-centered book)
- Davis, Laura (1991). Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child, a Support Book for Partners. Harper Perennial.
- DeBeixedon, Yvette S. (1995). Lovers & Survivors: A Partner’s Guide to Living with & Loving a Sexual Abuse Survivor. Robert D. Reed Publishers. Available at self-help sections in bookstores nationwide.
- Engel, Beverly. (1993). Partners in Recovery: How Mates, Lovers, & Other ProSurvivors Can Learn to Support & Cope with Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Fawcett Books.
- Engel, Beverly. (1995). Families in Recovery. Lowell House.
- Gil, Eliana. (1992). Outgrowing the Pain Together: A Book for Spouses & Partners of Adults Abused as Children. Dell Trade Publishing, Inc.
- Graber, Ken. (1991). Ghosts in the Bedroom; A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors. Health Communications.
- Hansen, Paul. Survivors and Partners: Healing the Relationships of Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. ISBN: 0962996041
- Landry, Dorothy. (1991). Family Fallout: A Handbook for Families of Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors. Safer Society Press ISBN: 1884444059.
- Levine, Robert Larry. (1996). When You Are the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor: A Workbook for You. Resource Publications. ISBN: 0893903299
- Loulan, JoAnn. (1987). Lesbian Passion: Loving Ourselves and Each Other. Aunt Lute Publishers. (Has chapter for survivors, and chapter for partners.)
- Matsakis, Aphrodite. (1998). TRUST AFTER TRAUMA: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them. New Harbinger Publications.
- McEvoy, Alan, Brookings, Jeff, and Rollo, Debbie, eds. (1999). If He Is Raped: A Guidebook for Parents, Mates, and Friends. Learning Publications.
- McEvoy, A. and J. Brookings. (1984). If She is Raped: A Book for Husbands, Fathers and Male Friends. Learning Publications, Inc. ASIN: 0918452554
- Mease, Bill. How Can I Help Him? : A Handbook For Partners of Men Sexually Abused as Children. ASIN: 0894868446
- Spear, Joan. (1991) How Can I Help Her? A Handbook for Partners of Women Sexually Abused as Children. Hazelden Education Materials.
- Stark, Kathe. (1993). Helping the Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse; For Friends, Family and Lovers. Mother Courage Press.
- W., Nancy. (2001). Embracing the Journey: Affirmations for Living Life as a Sexual Abuse Survivor. Hazleden Publications.
- Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs (1992). Partners in Healing: A Handbook for Partners of Rape Survivors.
- Woititz, Janet G. (1993). The Intimacy Struggle; A New Version of the Struggle for Intimacy. Revised Edition. Health Communications, Inc.
General Trauma, Stress, & Distress
- Burke Harris, Nadine (2019).The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity. Mariner Books.
- Burns, David. D. (1999). The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume.
- Harris, Russ. (2012). Reality Slap: Finding Peace and Fulfillment When Life Hurts. New Harbinger Publications.
- Perry, Bruce D., & Winfrey, Oprah (2021). What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. Flatiron Books: An Oprah Book.
- Reicherzer, Stacee L. (2021). The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference. New Harbinger Publications.
- Sapolsky, Robert M. (2004). Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers, Third Edition. Holt Paperbacks.
- Singh, Anneliese A. (2019). The Racial Healing Handbook: Practical Activities to Help You Challenge Privilege, Confront Systemic Racism, and Engage in Collective Healing. New Harbinger Publications.
- van der Kolk, Bessel. (2015). The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Publishing Group.
- Weisinger, Hendrie, & Pawliw-Fry, J.P. (2015). Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most. Penguin Random House.
Relationships (Including Books on Divorce/Breakups)
- Bancroft, Lundy. (2003). Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Berkley Books.
- Chodron, Pema. (2016). When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times. Shambala Publications.
- Elliott, Susan J. (2009). Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You. Da Capo Lifelong Books.
- Gottman, John, & Silver, Nate. (2013). What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal. Simon & Schuster.
- Hay, Louise, & Kessler, David. (2014). You Can Heal Your Heart: Finding Peace After a Breakup, Divorce, or Death. Hay House, Inc.
- Hendrix, Harville. (2007). Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition. Henry Colt & Co.
- Johnson, Sue. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Little, Brown Spark.
- Kahn Wilson, Karen. (2003). Transformational Divorce: Discover Yourself, Reclaim Your Dreams, and Embrace Life’s Unlimited Possibilities. New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
- Kirshenbaum, Mira. (1997). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship. Plume.
- Purdy, Deb. (2017). Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter, & Happier After Divorce. InsightStream.
- Tashiro, Ty. (2014). The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love. Harlequin Enterprises.
- Woodward Thomas, Katherine. (2016). Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After. Harmony Books.